A Guide for Couples Who Miss Each Other A quick note before we start: This post is written for couples where both partners genuinely want more sexual connection and miss the intimacy you once had. If one partner has little interest in sex or feels pressured, that's a different conversation requiring different tools. This is for the couples who both say "we need to prioritize this" but somehow... don't. The Limerence Hangover Remember early on when sex just happened ? When yo

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Aisha packed tomorrow's lunches while mentally juggling a dozen other tasks: responding to the daycare email, rescheduling the vet appointment, ordering her nephew's birthday gift, signing the field trip permission slip. Earlier, Jake had asked how he could help, but by the time she'd thought of something, he was already scrolling on his phone. It wasn't that he didn't care—she knew he did. But it felt like the weight of their home, their kids, their schedule, and their emoti

You know how you've spent months (years?) in therapy working on boundaries, communication skills, and not spiraling when your mom makes that one comment ? You've been crushing it. You're a whole regulated adult with healthy coping mechanisms and everything. And then you walk through your childhood front door, smell that specific combination of carpet cleaner and whatever your family always cooks, and BAM -- suddenly you're 14 again, feeling small and defensive and like you ca

It's 2 AM and you're lying in bed, replaying a conversation from three days ago. Not because it was dramatic or important -- but because you said something that  might  have come across wrong. Your stomach is tight. Your chest feels heavy. And somewhere in your exhausted brain, a voice is running through every possible way you could have hurt someone's feelings, even though they laughed at the time and texted you a meme the next day. Or maybe it's this: Someone in your life i

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